Second Guessing Yourself

How many of you second guess yourself? I’d be willing to bet that it’s just about everyone of us. I have found myself second guessing my actions a lot lately. Wondering, would life be different if I had made a different choice during particular events in my life? Of course they would. But, would life be a better quality? Yes, there’s always the chance that the different life could be worse too. I have decided that I’m better off not second guessing myself. Ha! I’m sure I’ll find myself still doing it from time to time.

Those times when life isn’t going the way I want it to. Presenting me with situations that make me uncomfortable and forcing me to grow, to become someone new. I’m not saying I’m not happy with my life, I am. However, there are those one or two things that if they weren’t around, my life would be so much more comfortable.

So, how do we deal with these things? These challenges we deal with in our day to day life. I began thinking about that today. How do I deal with it?

I guess one of the first things I do is to meditate. I don’t always meditate in the traditional sense of sitting crossed legged on the floor, hands resting in your lap, eyes closed. Basically anything I do where I slip into the “void”, that quiet space between thinking and sleeping when you are truly listening, I consider a type of meditation. It's that time when you kind of lose yourself. For me, it’s kayaking on the lake or down a creek, taking a walk in the woods or at the park, hugging a tree, taking a hot bath and sometimes it’s when I drive. Odds are you meditate more than you think you do. Especially, if you follow along my line of thinking.

Another thing I do is stretch (aka exercise). As a bodyworker and healer, I witness daily the effects of stress and tension on the human body. I am a victim of these effects just like you. My job as a massage therapist is a very physical one. I feel the tightness and pain in my body too. On those days, I get out my foam roller and get busy stretching. I was skeptical when I first bought it but, I swear by it now! Best $35 I have spent in a while.

Essential Oils (EO) are another way I deal with life. I cannot begin to tell you how much using EO has changed my life. It’s ridiculous how many I have but, I can honestly say “I have an oil for that!” LOL Seriously, I use EO for tight and painful muscles, to lift my mood when I’m having a bad day, to calm me down when I’m feeling anxious. I can go on and on. Want to learn more about EO? Let me know, I’m considering teaching an EO 101 class. You might help me make the decision to do that.

Share with your friend(s). This is something I don’t do often enough. We all need someone to share our challenges with. Friends give us the support and sometimes guidance we need during such times. I hope we all have at least one person in our lives that we trust and know will not judge us. Venting and sharing ideas can be so freeing and liberating.

It’s been a while since I’ve written. I have been in transition. Trying to figure out what to do next because life has put one of those challenges on me that I really didn’t want. I haven’t written because I didn’t have anything new or positive to say. Today, I decided to just share a little about what I’ve been dealing with and how I get through it. I’m not saying I have answers to my questions and challenges but, I do have a little more peace of mind and a better sense of security.

All I can do, and anyone else for that matter, is to take it one day at a time. Sometimes, one day at a time is too much. On those days, maybe one hour at a time or one minute at a time is more manageable. Where ever you are in life, I hope that you can use some of my coping techniques to make your challenges a little more bearable.